Give children the opportunity to express themselves
TEACH your pupils, young as they are, how to activate their innate mechanisms for rapid dispute resolution, when it matters most. Such mechanisms are naturally innate in every mentally stable human being. While some radically intelligent children would intuitively get into motion when there was a sense of danger or some level of perceived unusual, other children would normally need regular home educations and tutorials to unlock this inner awakening that would stimulate these rational steps, as soon as they detect any unusual event. circumstance. Aligning these children at these very crucial ages keeps them on their toes, forcing them to always pay attention to their surroundings and do what is needed quickly, not just waiting for mom or dad to make all the decisions for them, especially, when something isn’t right or just doesn’t add up. As for me, no one taught me how to respond to impulses. I was naturally intuitive and impulsive – maybe some kind of divine gift or more, I don’t know.
However, when I was around 8 years old, my father took me and my two younger siblings on vacation to my aunt’s house in Abuja. My aunt lived in a relatively comfortable housing estate in the Gariki metropolis (zone 11) of Abuja, with her husband and children. My dad left us behind and returned to Delta the next day, with a promise to pick us up from home when we are done with our month-long vacation. Interestingly, I’ve always been the type to never eat so much, but one thing I never liked to be joked about was not eating my rationed food quickly and “on schedule.” . It meant a lot to me, and so I think it meant a lot to my siblings as well. Unfortunately, my aunt and her family already had this unbearable tradition in their house, of eating only twice a day – a meal rationed by 1%. m, and the next and last meal of the day, at 7 p.m.
As a very obedient and benevolent son of the ground, I managed to endure this unpleasant ordeal which I considered horrible torture for two weeks, despite the fact that my cousins ââand the whole family were rather kind, receptive. and welcoming. Lucky for me, in particular, one of the back windows in my aunt’s upper apartment turned out to look out onto the beautiful grounds of the slightly bustling town of Gariki, offering unobstructed views of the 3-star Agura hotels. then popular, which were remarkably stylish a few to a few poles away from the house, and which my younger cousins ââhad innocently told me that there was a telephone booth which, unbeknownst to them, was my key to escape carefully observed that I needed to quickly free myself from the unforgettable mess I was dragged into.
One fateful day when I vowed that our slavery had inevitably ended, I took my two younger siblings by the hand, pretended we were going downstairs to play, and sneaked out – straight out. in the hotel. I still can’t explain to this day how we beat the high-profile gate protocols, with its handful of uniformed security guards who just stood and moped, as we passed. What I had to tell them, I cannot explain. We finally found our way into the beautifully sophisticated hotel; adorned with unprecedented and cutting edge designs and beautiful African artifacts that gave it adorable glamor with a western touch, and buzzed syntactically with that cold, spooky embrace that gracefully saturated the entire breathtaking edifice. That’s when we were approached by a well-dressed security guard on duty who was dazzling and wondering what nature of affairs such small children must be doing in such a high arena. With cheeky confidence, I told him I wanted to talk to my dad who was far away in Delta. The man looked puzzled and asked if I had the phone line number with me, to which I replied in the affirmative.
“Do you have any coins with you to make the call?” ” He asked. Standing still, I replied, âNo, I don’t. The man, who obviously looked surprised but impressed, smiled back at me and took out a few coins from his pocket which he helped dial the numbers with, while I called him without blinking. “Hello,” came that familiar soft, cordial voice from the other end. My dad had the biggest shocks of his life finally knowing that the caller on the other side was from my humble but strong self. “Francis, how did you manage to find a place to call me, in a vast and unfamiliar terrain like Abuja?” He inquired. And the rest was history. Everything I had to say to my old boy to rush to Abuja in the next couple of days to bring us back to Delta, can only be explained by the gods and my ancestors. Every kid sees mom and dad as a superhero and an unbreakable iron man, but they also need to believe that they are beautiful super kids too and that you trust their smart but rational judgments when the need arises. in fact felt. It will give them that survival instinct that will help them through and survive any storm.
In a world of inexplicable uncertainties, every child must be given this golden opportunity to explore and put their potential into expression, in the face of apparent challenges. On a final note, without the security guard failing to express to my father over the phone how lucky he was to have children as exceptional as children, we finally left the Agura hotels. amidst the cheers and praise from the staff and visitors who showered us with praise, but without failing to splash us with a few naira bills as a gift for our bravery. Which I carefully kept away from my very kind but curious aunt, with a very stern warning to my siblings to “shut up!” “
- Dikedi written via [email protected]